The past years have seen a wealth of new books published idealising the lives of French women. While elegant, sexy French women and their glamorous, sexy lifestyles have long populated the pages of novels and the screens of art house cinemas, the new wave of books about French women is focused on non-fiction, self help and the lessons women all over the world can learn from their French sisters.
The first major success that launched the trend was French Women Don’t Get Fat, but writers and publishers soon discovered that there are many other things French women are seemingly better at than those not blessed with Gallic genes. Today, there are „French women“ books on parenting, grooming, ageing, sex, relationships, even abstinence. We have long wondered whether these books were really grounded in reality – so we took a closer look at the results of a recent international study on sex and relationships to find out if the numbers support the theory that French women are slimmer, sexier and happier than the rest of womankind.
At least the sexy part seems to be true! French women have sex more often than the international average – 12% of French female respondents have sex daily and 50% every week. French women are also more satisfied with their sex lives than the average, with 74% either very or reasonably satisfied. They are also more confident, which may have something to do with the time they invest in their appearance. >> Read more…
Not that long ago, the first steps in the dating game went something like this: meeting, (usually the guy) getting a phone number, (usually the girl) waiting for the phone call, first date, waiting for another phone call, second date, etc. Waiting for that first phone call could be torture. While the guy would usually try to play it cool, trying not to call too soon, the questions „why isn’t he calling?“ haunted the girl.
However, once he did call, the first few phone conversations were a great way to get to know each other a bit better before the first date. Chatting in a more relaxed atmosphere, without worrying how you looked and whether the date was going well, allowed both sides to actually share things about them, providing talking points for the dates that would follow.
Today, calling someone on the phone is slowly but surely becoming a thing of the past. Many people don’t even have a landline anymore and with mobile phones, there’s constant worries about battery life, health hazards from spending too much time on the phone and bad coverage. On the other hand, people are often shy to call a mobile phone just to chat, in case they catch you at a bad time, out and about or someplace where it’s too loud to talk. There are so many other forms of communication available, often sending a text message, instant message or email is easier than calling someone on the phone.
With friends and family that’s fine, especially if you know that they prefer communicating via text, message or emails. But what about texting someone in a dating scenario. Those born after 1990, who grew up with mobile phones, probably wouldn’t even think twice about texting someone instead of calling, but those who grew up with dating etiquette that involved waiting for him (or more rarely her) to call will find it strange and possibly rude.
If you got someone’s number and want to ask them out on a date, we would suggest sending a text message first, saying how nice it was to meet and asking about a good time for a phone call. That way you don’t have to omit the calling part, but you can use the first text as a buffer to make sure the first phone call isn’t awkward.
We’ve already debated whether you should change your relationship status on Facebook at all. If you’ve decided you want to share your good news with the world (well, at least the part of the world you’ve befriended on Facebook), then timing is everything
Here’s our checklist to finding the right time to change your relationship status on Facebook:
- Is it official? Are you sure that you are in a relationship – and that your partner thinks so too?
- Is it going to last? You don’t have to be sure you want to spend the rest of your life in this relationship, but you don’t want to be changing your relationship status back and forth every month either.
- Have you been single for several months? If you (or your partner) have recently broken up with someone, it might be very hurtful to your or his/her ex to see you announce your new relationship too soon.
- Do you want all your Facebook friends to know about your new relationship? If you are friends with any people who have no business knowing about your private life, or with people who might be upset (see above), you should at least adjust your privacy settings to hide the update from them.
- Does your partner want to announce the new relationship status on Facebook, too? They will have to accept your status update anyway, so you might as well discuss it first.
If you answered YES to all of the questions above, then the time might be right to change your relationship status on Facebook!
Be prepared for loads of likes, congratulations and comments wishing you luck with your new relationship. But remember, at the end of the day, what happens in your reationship is between you and your partner – and it’s a lot more than a life event on your timeline!
Let’s face it, nowadays a lot of your communication with friends takes place through facebook. In previous (pre-digital) times, you might have confided in a handful of good friends when you met someone new, then kept them updated as things progressed and announced it to them when the relationship became official. Today, with a couple of clicks you can change your relationship status on Facebook and announce to all of your Facebook friends that you are in a relationship.
Should you change your relationship status on Facebook at all?
In many ways, updating your relationship status on Facebook is great, because it allows you to do what you want to do when you are in love: shout it from the rooftops and tell everyone that you have found a special someone. However, there are also some obvious risks involved in changing your relationship status on Facebook. First of all, a change in relationship status on Facebook will let all of your friends know about a new relationship status – even those that aren’t very close friends at all, like work colleagues and casual acquaintances. Do they really need to know that you are in a new relationship? If you don’t want every person you are connected with on Facebook to see your relationship status, you can adjust the privacy settings accordingly.
However, even if your privacy settings only show your close friends your new relationship status, you need to consider that the update will also be shown on your new partner’s Facebook timeline. If you really want to keep the news to a limited circle of friends, you need to make sure he/she does the same.
Finally, one good reason why many people choose not to share their relationship status on Facebook at all is the fact that it will have to changed if the relationship ends. While the positive feedback, likes, congrats and happy comments on a status update announcing you are in a relationship are great, you probably won’t want the commiserations, „dislike“ comments and expressions of pity when the relationship ends and you change your relationship status on Facebook back to „single“.
If you do want to change your relationship status on Facebook to make it official, then timing is everything. Read our blog post on WHEN to change your relationship status on Facebook here .
Online dating has virtually replaced so-called “real-world dating” as the first option men and women choose these days when they want to meet someone special. Or even if they just want to hook up on a casual basis.
However, lots of people – and men in particular – get frustrated in their attempts to meet people online. And the main reason for this is not the fault of online dating as a platform, it is purely and simply down to the guys being ignorant. They don’t do their homework and just charge into it without thinking. They join a dating site and expect to be meeting women the next day without the key ingredient. Effort! And then, when they don’t get the results they are hoping for, they abandon the process. So, here are a few important tips for meeting women online. >> Read more…