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How to End a Relationship
Beginning a relationship can be hard. But a breakup can be just as hard – if you don’t do it right! If you stick to these tips that tell you how to end a relationship, you might just survive the breakup unharmed…
HOW TO END A RELATIONSHIP GONE BAD
Or: How to break up with your girlfriend while you still can!
- Make sure that you are the first person to tell her that you want to break up.
Otherwise you will be dealing with a woman scorned before you even get a chance to actually scorn her (so to speak) - Choose a neutral place – not at your own nor at her house.
Bonus: if you break up in a public place, she is less likely to cause a scene. - Tell her yourself – and in person.
No messengers, letters, emails, text messages, post it notes (it’s all been done and it’s simply bad form). - Make it clear – but make it short.
You need to give a reason for your breakup, but you don’t need to discuss every single good and bad aspect of your relationship at length. - Make it seem logical – to her and to yourself.
It might help to write down your reasons before the breakup, in order to get them straight. - Don’t change your mind!
No matter how much she cries, begs or pleads. If you backtrack now, it will be so much harder to give it a second try. - Set an end to ending it.
It’s not a bad idea to have an appointment planned so you can leave at an appropriate time.
Relationships in Times of Crisis: Can you Save your Relationship Before it Goes into Recession?
If you are worried about the financial crisis, then you now have one more thing to be worried about: you might not only lose your money, you could also lose your love.
If the financial crisis affects you, the result can be a relationship in crisis. Even the greatest love can take a hit in financially difficult times. Many couples are currently experiencing a relationship in crisis, caused by the global financial crisis. Relationship counsellors, divorce lawyers, and real estate agents all confirm the sad trend. Summer should be the time for sun, love, and happiness, but at the moment more couples are fighting and even separating than celebrating a summer wedding. There’s a clear correspondence between the financial crisis and relationships in crisis and that connection is most clearly visible in the pace where all the trouble began.
You might remember the Wallstreet Wives who made headlines last year with their support group Dating A Banker Anonymous. According to their blog, „DABA is a safe place where women can come together – free from the scrutiny of feminists- and share their tearful tales of how the mortgage meltdown has affected their relationships.“
But not only bankers’ relationships are affected by the financial crisis. During financially secure times, the love and marriage industry booms. In safe times, you marry your partner, buy a house, and have children. But not now – the number of weddings is down from previous years. A relationship in crisis is the first visible effect of financial worries eating away at a couple’s personal resources. This leads to quarrels at home, already existing issues will surface, issues that have been glossed over will erupt and cause trouble. Read more
How to Deal with a Big Age Difference in a Relationship
A big age difference in a relationship isn’t a new phenomenon, but somehow it remains harshly judged. Bystanders quickly form an opinion on the relationship of an older man or an older woman with a young partner. An older woman seen out with a younger man must be a nymphomaniac, a younger woman with an older man is suspected of being a gold digger. The older man is looking to recoup his lost youth with a younger woman, while a younger man wants to brag about sleeping with an older woman. Pop psychology at its best. If you’re lucky, your friends will support you, but if there is a considerable age difference between you and your partner, be prepared for disapproval to some degree.
There are three ways to deal with a big age difference in a relationship: Read more
How to Solve Every Relationship Problem
Having a relationship problem? Thankfully, Ben and Sarah are here to help. They post video advice with solutions to pretty much every relationship problem. The great thing is, while most of the advice is pretty useful, the videos are also very tongue in cheek, sometimes even laugh-out-loud funny!
Like “How To Stop A Row In 30 Seconds”:
Dating Humor: How To Stop A Row In 30 Seconds
The word “whipped” springs to mind… But it’s in the “Dating Humour” category! But then again, that doesn’t mean it doesn’t contain some good advice!
All of Ben and Sarahs relationship problem-solving videos are here. We think “How To Be The Perfect Boyfriend” and “How To Be The Perfect Girlfriend” are a good place to start 
Don’t Let Communication Problems Get in the Way of Love
What do you do when your relationship is in trouble? Talk! Sounds simple… And yet it can be so hard.
If your relationship is worth saving, then overcome communication issues and start talking straight.
- In a relationship, each person has a different communication style. You need to acknowledge that your boyfriend or girlfriend’s style may differ from yours. If the boyfriend loves to talk, never letting the girlfriend get a word in, or the girlfriend is a great listener who doesn’t like to share secrets, there’s trouble ahead.
- Learn to adjust your speaking and listening patterns to your boyfriend or girlfriend’s speech.
- Don’t overlook nonverbal communication. Body language is very important in a relationship and can tell you if your boyfriend or girlfriend is saying what he/she is thinking.
- Don’t be fooled by gender stereotypes into blaming all problems on differences between the way men and women communicate. Most communication clashes in relationships are individual, not male/female.
- Keep in mind that every relationship is different and there is no general rule for communication that applies to every relationship. You need to adjust your communication to the needs of your boyfriend or girlfriend – and vice versa.
There really is one rule that applies to every relationship – communication is the best way to solve communication problems!
If your way of communicating is compatible with your boyfriend or girlfriend’s communication style, your relationship is much more likely to be successful and harmonious. The science-based matching system at be2 can help you find a partner who is a good match for you in many ways, amongst others in the way you communicate.
When you see how happy you are in a relationship with a partner you can communicate with properly, you will appreciate how valuable science-based matchmaking really is. There are several questions that relate to communication styles in the free be2 questionnaire, for example this question relating to the most important aspect of relationship communication: speaking and listening.
A major source of conflict in many relationships can be prevented by pairing only people who are open to criticism with those who are very critical. This helps avoid major communication disasters.
Once you have completed the personality test, you will receive an evaluation free of charge and you can view how your test result compares with the results of your partner recommendations. Here’s two examples of evaluations that are relevant to communication in a harmonious relationship:
