Valentine’s Day 2011 – Single Men and Single Women have their say!

Looks like Valentine’s day 2011 is going to be pretty busy around here! Earlier this year, we asked our members what Valentine’s day means for them. More than 1000 singles responded and let us know that they will be doing everything they can to get a date – or even to find the love of their life – on Valentine’s day 2011.

Here’s what be2 singles had to say about Valentine’s day 2011

• 69% of singles are more likely to send a message to their be2 partner recommendations on Valentine’s day 2011
• 80% of singles are more likely to log in to their be2 account and respond to messages Valentine’s day 2011
• 68% of singles are more likely to say yes if somebody asked them out for a date on Valentine’s day 2011
• Single women are less likely to send a Valentine’s message than single men: only 59% of women compared with 78% of men are planning to send a message to their partner recommendations
• But that doesn’t mean single women won’t be active! 62% of single women are likely to respond to a message from a partner recommendation on Valentine’s day 2011

As you can see, on Valentine’s day 2011 is the perfect opportunity to connect with other singles online.

>>> If you are still single, why don’t you register now and join Millions of singles at be2 for Valentine’s day 2011.

Insecurity in Relationships: Which European Singles Find Themselves Least Attractive (You’ll be Surprised!)

When we asked European singles from different countries some questions on confidence and assertiveness, the one thing we didn’t expect was high levels of insecurity in relationships in the responses from French singles. Surely, the French are hardly perceived as the most insecure Europeans when it comes to dating?

However, it seems that French singles may be suffering from insecurity in relationships. When completing the be2 personality test, French singles revealed that they score themselves lowest for attractiveness, compared to other nationalities and are less likely to express their feelings for someone they like, for fear of being rejected.

The most confident European singles are Italian women, who rate themselves the most attractive and are most likely to make the first move without any sign of insecurity in relationships.

How do we know about European singles’ insecurity in relationships?

All European singles that register with be2 complete the same science-based personality test. These answers allow be2 to provide a unique personality profile that helps the matching algorithm find other singles that are a good match.

One of the questions in the personality test asks singles to rate their own attractiveness:

Another question asks users how likely they would be to make the first move:

When you take the answers to both questions together and compare them by nation, the results are quite surprising.

Asked how they rate their own attractiveness, Italian and Dutch singles have relatively high perceptions of their own attractiveness and women tend to have higher scores than men. Asked if they are prepared to make the first move, the sense of their own beauty does not always correlate with assertiveness.

However, there are some obvious parallels, with Italian singles in general rating themselves the most attractive and also scoring highly on assertiveness. Italian women, in particular, see themselves as the most beautiful and assertive European singles. So far, so true to stereotype.

But the results of French singles surprised us: French men were proportionally least assertive and confident in their and a quarter of all French men would not make the first move out of insecurity in relationships.

The great thing about science-based matchmaking? be2 finds the right partner for European singles based on these replies, so all singles are matched to partners that are well suited. And those singles who are worried about their insecurity in relationships can rely on the personality test result, personal introductions and tools like the internal messaging system and the ‘just ask’ quiz to make it easy to take the first step.

>>>Take the personality test free of charge now!

First Date Fashion Advice for Women

What role does fashion play in your dating success? Is there such a thing as the ideal first date fashion? First date fashion for women in 2010 is becoming less influenced by the financial crisis: the look is chic and classical, but with a rising optimism in both colour choice as well as new, creative details added to an otherwise simple cut. Dating fashion follows its own rules:

1. First date fashion should always emphasize your strong points
• Women in tight t-shirts is always a hit – especially on those with trimmed torsos.
• Slender women can wear tight fit, while the chubbier should choose a baggier fashion.
• Women with feminine curves had better reveal their cleavage, whereas sporty girls could underline their behind instead.
• However, you should always remember that you are on a date, not as a sales show, so don’t put too much of your goods on display!

2. Choose a first date fashion style that suits not only your body, but also your personality
• If you’re funny and sparkling, show it in your colour choice!
• If you’d prefer to look serious, black and grey is always a classy and secure choice.
• Even if you are very fashion-forward, in the early dating phase with a new boyfriend, don’t wear anything too daring (but don’t dress too dull either).
• Avoid extremes such as a really girlie look or a totally strict business suit. Read more

How to Get Married – Advice on Finding a Husband

Are you dreaming of a trip down the aisle, of the perfect dress to wear and the perfect man to say “yes” to in front of the altar? But is that dream becoming ever more unrealistic as you get older and the men you date turn out not to be husband material?

Are the men the problem or is your behaviour part of the reason you are having trouble finding a husband? Imagine how much happier you could be if you knew how to pick – and keep – a man who wants what you want. In short: would your life be happier if you knew knew how to get married?

This review of „How to Get Married After 35“, a book about finding a husband (for „older“ women who want to get married) was a really interesting read. The article gives a nice overview of the book’s chapters and the strategies suggested for finding a husband. There is one thing I don’t like about books like this (and we’ll get to that later), but there is one thing I like about this book and the tips it offers to women who want to get married:

1. It asks women to take responsibility for finding a husband (or a potential husband, at least) rather than telling them how to make themselves attractive for a man and then wait for him to take the initiative.
2. It encourages women to do some soul-searching to find out want they actually want and need from a man and why they want to get married. That way finding a husband becomes a purposeful search for women rather than a means to an end.
3. It clearly outlines the types of men women should steer clear of. As women who desperately want to get married are especially vulnerable to men who will make them unhappy, this is very solid advice.

Here’s the list of men to avoid when finding a husband:
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Single Women Seek… Attached Men

It’s a truism among single women that all the best men are taken (or gay, but that’s a different matter). However, a new study on the factors that determine attraction indicates that it’s not so much the best men that are taken, but rather that the fact that men are taken makes single women thing they must be the best.

Confused? Well, the evidence the study produced is less than confusing:
184 heterosexual students, half of whom were single, participated in a study on sexual attraction and told the volunteers that a computer program would match them with an ideal partner. All the women in the study were shown the same photograph of a made-up „Mr. Right“ and all men were shown the same „Miss Perfect“. Now comes the interesting part – Read more