Most people don’t need or want to practice kissing – after the first few kisses, you find out what your partner likes and you get more confident. Usually, you learn to be a good kisser by kissing However, if you lack confidence, it can help to practice kissing before you kiss the guy or girl you are dating.
How can you practice kissing?
- There are many ways to practice kissing without a partner. Just always keep in mind that a real kiss will feel different from anything you can practice – and it will make you feel very different, too!
- You can practice kissing on your arm, the back of your hand or on a loosely closed fist. Imagine it’s the boy or girl you want to kiss. This has the advantage of letting you find out how the touch of your lips and tongue actually feels.
- Another way of practicing is with a ripe fruit like a peach, for example. After taking the first bite, explore the soft inside of the fruit with your tongue. You can increase the flexibility of your tongue by picking up sweets out of a bowl using the tip of your tongue.
Now put that theory into practice…
Kissing on a date:
- Prepare your lips: You can only be a good kisser with soft, supple, relaxed lips. Regular peeling removes dry skin (there are lip peeling creams you can buy for this), lip balm makes your lips soft (ideally, use an unscented, neutral balm), and facial exercises relax your muscles (the same type as the exercises you do to warm up your vocal chords before a concert).
- Fresh breath: Similarly, you can’t be a good kisser with bad breath. Brush your teeth regularly, especially just before a date, and also clean your tongue and use floss. Chewing gum or mints keep your breath fresh on the go. Only eat garlic if your date is doing the same, otherwise avoid at all costs.
- Read the body language: There are conscious and subconscious signals that signal that a person is ready to kiss: open body language, turned towards you, hands touching body or hair, etc
- Move closer: If you feel that your partner’s body language looks inviting, you can slowly reduce the disctance between you and begin to touch casually – at first, by lightly brushing a shoulder or knee in conversation, then by holding hands or a similar, affectionate gesture. Should your partner pull away at any point, keep your distance.
- Initiate the kiss: If the reaction is positive, however, you are ready for the kiss. Lean in carefully and slowly, tilt your head slightly to one side (most people tend do go for the right) and maintain eye contact.
- The kiss: The first contact is lip-to-lip, slightly off-centre. For example, you can first kiss the lower lip (softly, not with tense, puckered lips), pull away a little, then kiss the upper lip. After a little while, let your tongue touch your partner’s lips lightly. If the lips open, push your tongue through carefully, until your lips are touching. Keep things interesting by alternating between moving your tongue around, first in one direction, then the other way. In between, return to a kiss on the lips.
This film has more tips on how to practice kissing:
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